Last words

I thought... I really thought you could be the one. Crazy, huh? You were so different I could never be bored by your side. You were so handsome I could put you on a frame and just observe you for hours. You were so funny I wouldn't need jokes in Spanish anymore. You were so intelligent you could even try to win me at trivial (though you wouldn't because of the lack of cultural knowledge). So I thought you could really be the one. The one to get married to, the one to have children, beautiful, anxious and terribly smart children with, the one to share a life with. 

But that was when I was being very optimistic and naive. Those glimpses of time when it didn't bother me that you took so long to feel something for me, it always made me feel lower, less than the rest. All my life, because of just the fact of being a woman, as every woman in the planet, I have had to work more to get the same result as the guys. But I didn't expect to have to work more among other women to get your affection, like I was always missing something to make you notice me. It is not your fault and I am completely aware of that, but that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt because I will never understand why you are with me after all these crazy absurd love affairs you had with other people and the line of thought usually ends up with the classic "there wasn't a better option there at the moment".

And now I don't feel anything anymore. I lost my capacity to cry, to laugh, to be anything more than a jellyfish. I'm exhausted by this bureaucratic life, full of CVs and cover letters and applications that end nowhere. I thought you could be my stone through this. Through the masters, through the cinema and through the endless search for a proper job. And I wanted to be that for you in return. But you never really were. You left in the most crucial moments, when I had to deliver papers and I barely had time to make food, when I was the bussiest, when I spent the nights crying out of frustration over the British job working system and I thought all my decisions were wrong, when I just wanted to go back home. You weren't there when I made the shopping for the studio. You weren't there when I made the first dinner. I spent the first night there with someone that wasn't you, but it should have been you. I wanted and needed you to be there.

And, you know, in my anxious mind everytime you did something like that I wonder if you would have done that to any of the other girls. If you would have made them wait. You yourself told about that great time when you cross your country just to give a girl a surprise that ended up badly. Would you give me a surprise like that? You have never given me a surprise. Not a single time in two years. And I'm supposed to feel glad precisely because of the amount of time we've been together. How can I when you did and felt and said more in two months than in two years with me? And then it all ends up the same: I'm crazy, I'm jealous, that's just not true.

Sometimes I wonder if you really understand why I'm so pushy about certain things. The job. The language. The house. Beyond obvious reasons, all of them are proof that you are being serious about this relationship. I didn't make you pay for the studio, I opened my house to you, I helped you with all the administrative proccesses I could, I think I made my part. But you still feel like a guest here, a very comfy and long-lasting guest. And since you don't really make any efforts in learning Spanish, or getting a job, or actually care about anything in the house, I should not be what you're making me be: a mom, a handmaid, a whore.